10 Things to make your life easy

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LIFE is meant to be enjoyed. But you have to intentionally design your life to be able to experience that. Here are 10 things that I do that make my life super easy and enjoyable:

1⃣ I spend the first hour of my day in peace and in prayer. Before I touch the phone or begin my day, I spend time with God, talking planning visualizing and praying for the things I want to manifest in that day. I get in alignment FIRST before anything or anyone has an opportunity to move me.

2⃣ I keep my goals and plans in front of me. Directly next to my bed is a card with the current goals I am working towards and the plans that I have for myself. I read them and pray over them several times a day.

3⃣ I prepare my meals in advance. To prevent eating out or over indulging, I prep my meals for the week on Sunday. I cook, package and plan out what will go in my body for the week.

4⃣ I “reset” my mind nightly. I never go to bed with the day on my mind. I let go of my thoughts. I forgive moments that bothered or upset me. I send love and peace to those I love and to those who don’t love me. I say to myself “Shanel you did a good job today!” And I rest in peace.

5⃣ I keep candles lit and fresh flowers all around me all day. Energy and environment shape your ability to be creative and to think on a higher level.

6⃣ I always look good. I make sure my clothes are well put together, clean and crisp. Even if I’m wearing sweats, I’m well put together. I never leave out disheveled or just thrown together. It speaks volumes to the way you value yourself.

7⃣ I don’t force myself to follow a hard schedule. I let my days flow and let God move me. Because I’ve already written it and believe it… I trust my plans will manifest. No resistance. I go with the flow.

8⃣ I talk to myself constantly. I am ALWAYS in intentional inner conversation with myself. I tell myself how capable, amazing, valuable and needed I am. If I pass a mirror I say “hey gorgeous” if I need motivation, I go to a mirror and give myself a pep talk. If I am mad, I discuss my feelings with myself. The parts of my body I don’t like, I tell it “I love you and I’m going to make you better.” If I don’t get something, I ask the Holy Spirit to teach me. I make sure that I’m rehearsing in my mind what I want to see play out in my day.and I’m always SPEAKING OUT what I desire to see happen.

9⃣ I give A LOT. I over-give on a daily basis. If I stop to buy a juice or snack, I pay for two and leave the money at the register for the next customer. If I leave a tip at a restaurant I leave the full amount of what the bill is as a tip. If I get gas, I leave $20 extra for the next person. If someone asks me for a $1 on the street I give them $10. I send money to my family for no reason. I treat my friends to dinner and send them flowers and gifts. I believe HALF of your earnings should always be shared in someway with others. No matter how much you have. This principal has blessed ME in so many ways financially. I am never without because I give so freely. And it has PUSHED my financial limits and money mindset, so I don’t have limits on how much I can RECEIVE. If you go above and beyond to GIVE financially, God will go above and beyond to BLESS you financially.

🔟 I rest frequently. If my body is tired, I listen to it and rejuvenate myself. When I feel stressed or overworked, I stop without worry. Scripture says REST IN GODS PEACE. The spirit of God is IN ME. So my physical body has to be fueled enough to carry it. If my body needs something I supply it, because it must be my spirit that is calling for something so that I can give something greater. REST!! Rest in Gods peace often. You will have more energy then you can imagine.

I’m not built for this

I’m not built for a 8-5. I was made to spread my wings and fly..

But how do i leave the comforts for steady pay check?

Wondering if my bills are paid yet?

I know I was born for greatness

But I’m starting to feel weightless..

Going from day-to-day wasting my life away.

I’ve given myself  timeline.. I have to move on..

Tired of living in a box.. I want to travel.. I can do this..

I will do this.

(i forgot i have to rhyme lol)


The world is reading According to Dee

I just want to say thank you all for reading According to Dee.  To each and every country.. Hey Boo!


black men and natural hair



Going through my hair car journey.. I’ve notice that some black men don’t like their women natural. natural2

Just read a post on Facebook where a guy said “Who in hell told some of y’all that the natural look fit you.you walking around here looking like Shabaka and a old lady in the face and wondering why your man didn’t give you a compliment.”

WTF? how could you not like the natural state of the black women? you’d rather like her scalp fried, dried, tacky blonde weave?natural4

Black men wonder why some black women self-love is decreasing, and continuing to incorporate the European look.

In all truthfulness when I wear my hair natural..  men of the opposite race love it.  I’ve heard ” I love when you wear your hair like that Dee, it makes you eyes glow” and other things like that.

More and more black woman are deciding to date outside of their race now because some black men don’t appreciate us in our natural beauty.