Tag: culture

You

Drifting in and out of unconsciousness… All I can think about is you.
You interrupt my dreams of shopping in France, walking roads in Venice… All I can think about is you..
Your slight smile.. Your chocolate skin.. Your full lips Your sweet face… Keeps interrupting… interrupting my sleep. My much needed sleep.

5am and its you I’m thinking about. The way your beard feels against that spot below my ear. How perfectly our bodies fit when we stand chest to chest and you whisper into my ear and call me beautiful.

Baby its you.

constantly

IF

I constantly think about you.

You constantly invade my private thoughts.

I constantly envision the possibilities.

You constantly give me a reason to think about forever.

I constantly doubt that love is within my reach.

You constantly remind that you are within my grasp.

Constantly

Does it take money to date?

So I’ve been dating for the pass few months, most of them have been hits, some are total miss. Most of the time I attract guys who are the old school type, that like to pay for everything, which I’m cool with, but I also like to pay to give it some balance.

I’ve notice that once you are interested in that person you want to spend more time with them, and that can become costly. Lets take a look at it. If we go out three times a week, rather is just dinner, movies or a concert, that can be a small car note.

My question is does it take money to date? I personally think it doesn’t take a bunch.. but it take some.. even if it covers gas.. But other than that no. If you have an imagination and resourceful You can pocket that cash and save it for a trip.

Here are a few date that don’t cost any money and could actually help you get to know that person better:

  1. Trip to the library: A trip to the library will help you find out what type of literature your date is into. I love reading, and if my date is an avid reader like I am, his reading interest may be a great conversation starter.
  2. Check out the local Saturday market: This is one of my faves. On Saturday morning there is a community market that has an array of activities available, that’s all free. You can check out the locally grown fruit and veggie, while getting to know what your date like and dislike(you may get hints on favorite meals etc). You can also try bake goods while walking and talking.
  3. late night walk on the beach: this by far is my favorite. Usually the beach houses novelty stores, bars and cool little activities that are mostly free.  Water puts me at ease and makes me totally relaxed, so that will make the conversation flow.
  4.  Check out this video where  Male Translation podcast talks about dating with out using money, and let me know your thoughts.   

African Dreams

africa

Ever had a dream so vivid and poetic, when you wake up you body is still reacting?

Well I had a dream like that this morning..

I went to bed at some what of a decent time, then i get this random call around 1:30 asking if I was sleep. Umm Sir sleep is what people do at 1 am.. unless you are working the graveyard shift or hooking.. I do neither.

So I couldn’t fall back asleep until 4:30.. That’s when I had the dream.. I’m feeling all weirded out reminiscing.

OK.. the setting was in Africa.. I had on minimal cloth clothing, kind of living off the land.. and I was MARRIED! .. yeah.. it was like i was in a theater looking at my self.

So my husband was this chocolate, powerful, regal, bald head King. I’m getting excited typing it!.. We basically ruled this little country and he took me where ever he went. We made love is some of the weirdest, scenic and romantic places..It was sweet and sensual lol and it started to get a lil risqué at that point. I was enjoying it.

Then I freaking woke up! I was like mannnn.. NOOOOO!! i wanna go back to sleep!

I miss him

No one that looks like me…

It baffles me when I look in corporate America and I don’t see anyone that looks like me. There has to be a change there so much things that are going on that someone cannot relate to you.. there is no diversity.. I am tired of having to take lower level jobs not because. Of lack of education but it’s because of who you know not what you know. And sad to say skin color.. I think its time for black communities to unite and. Create our own.. They don’t mind us doing clerical work… Maintenance.. But never the face of the company..

Someone told me that woman are not designed to have multiple sex partners… Women can not have sex without getting attached… I must admit.. This is true.. In most instances..

When a woman allows you to enter her.. To she is allowing you to penetrate not just her body.. But her soul.. Her inner being.. So many different unwarranted feelings begin to transpire.. So many levies break..flood gate’s become unsealed..
I recently watched a video were Dr Umar Johnson spoke about such feeling of a woman. We sex is introduced into a relationship prematurely.. Our ability to make conscious decisions go out the window..  Not just women.. Men also..

Not sure why I decided to write this .. But it was on my mind.. I think i will be writing for the better part of the night..lol

Be self motivatied

Its only so much you can do to help motivate someone.. Sometimes you have to stop and let the chips fall where they may.. Here are a few tips on how to be self- Motivated when you can only depend on you.

My 8 Steps

Here is a new list that is a little more generic:

  • 1. Start simple. Keep motivators around your work area – things that give you that initial spark to get going.
  • 2. Keep good company. Make more regular encounters with positive and motivated people. This could be as simple as IM chats with peers or a quick discussion with a friend who likes sharing ideas.
  • 3. Keep learning. Read and try to take in everything you can. The more you learn, the more confident you become in starting projects.
  • 4. Stay Positive. See the good in bad. When encountering obstacles, you want to be in the habit of finding what works to get over them.
  • 5. Stop thinking. Just do. If you find motivation for a particular project lacking, try getting started on something else. Something trivial even, then you’ll develop the momentum to begin the more important stuff.
  • 6. Know yourself. Keep notes on when your motivation sucks and when you feel like a superstar. There will be a pattern that, once you are aware of, you can work around and develop.
  • 7. Track your progress. Keep a tally or a progress bar for ongoing projects. When you see something growing you will always want to nurture it.
  • 8. Help others. Share your ideas and help friends get motivated. Seeing others do well will motivate you to do the same. Write about your success and get feedback from readers.

Take it slow..

wait

When something feels so right.. that you are holding your breath hoping it’s not a dream.

Take it slow..

Wanting to skip pass sleep so that you can fully immerse yourself in its presence…

Take it slow..

But it feels so good the connects seems to unreal…

Take it slow..

But but no I don’t want to..

Baby…

Take it slow.

Can I look behind your eyes to see your true intention?

Take it slow..

Can I have a prelude of your passion? can I tap into your inner working to see if we connect beyond attraction?

Yes.. but first we need to

Take it slow…